My Goodies, Not My Goodies

Alright, so this is a subject I know is a little touchy, but... it is what it is. I'm just gonna be real about it and speak the truth as I see it. Now, nobody deserves to be cheated on and I definitely do NOT condone cheating, however, truth be told it happens each and everyday and if we (especially women) were honest with ourselves, we'd say a lot of times it could've been prevented. I mean, be real, what do you expect to happen if you're withholding sex/just not being intimate anymore? I know sometimes you're just "not in the mood" and I know at times you're tired and all you want to do is sleep, but dig this, the best way to actually be "in the mood" more often AND relieve tension and stress is to what? Have more sex. Sex increases blood flow giving you more energy and also releases endorphins ( neurotransmitters produced in the brain that reduce pain and are also known for increasing feelings of euphoria) giving you more happy feelings. Let me also just say that sometimes people will cheat no matter what you do, you can have sex with them daily, support them in all that they do, just be the best partner you can be to them and they still end up cheating because in the end if a person REALLY wants to cheat they'll do it regardless.  What I am saying though is withholding sex from your partner is not a good form of "punishment" nor will it make him/her very happy especially if in the beginning you were "getting it in" all the time. So what this means is you increase your chances of being cheated on even by those who normally wouldn't do so. It's not all about the sex though. Sex is a way of expression that you care, it shows that you are still attracted to your partner and your not having sex with them may lead them to wonder all types of negative things about the way you feel and also where the relationship is going. If you're not having sex with them because you no longer find them attractive? Is there something going on with you that's stressing you out? Are you mad about something that happened between us? Are you just unhappy? Whatever it is, talk about it. They aren't psychic, so they can't read your mind. Communication is key because truth be told, what you won't do, another person will and that's just real.