God Made Us All!

So, this post totally isn't directly associated with relationships or love, BUT it's something that's been on my mind. I have a question for everyone, a question I think we should all think about; why is it that we treat people who are, ahem, less attractive as if it's their fault? You know what I mean. We turn up our noses at people who don't fit into our idea of what attractive is, we talk down to people we deem ugly, we make them feel horrible about themselves as if they created themselves, not to mention people we deem fat. But why? Why are we so focused on appearances that we'll alienate someone who isn't what we'd consider attractive? And on a whole other level of bashing people who aren't attractive is comparing siblings based on not only their musical or acting abilities, but yes, their looks. We see it in the media everyday. All of the Kardashian sisters are compared to one another, Solange is compared to Beyonce, Ashlee Simpson is compared to Jessica Simpson, Prince Harry is compared to Prince William and so on and so forth. No one can control which features they take from their parents and which ones they don't and weren't we all taught as kids that it's what's on the inside that really counts?

Let Them Know You Appreciate Them

So, talking with my sis yesterday led me to write this post. Your partner needs to know that you appreciate them, that you still find them attractive, especially after you've been together for a few years. It isn't enough to tell friends and/or family how much you appreciate your mate, how beautiful/handsome he/she is if you aren't letting them know how you feel. It's so much better to hear things "from the horse's mouth". I'm not saying that you have to tell your mate he/she is beautiful/handsome each and everyday or that you have to do extravagant things for them to show them you care every weekend, but I am saying that every now and then it's good to tell them how much you appreciate the things they do for you and compliment an outfit or change in hairstyles they may not think you've noticed. Think about this, it's the little things that make relationships worth having, something as small as saying "do you know how much I love you" can put a smile on your partner's face and remind them that you feel lucky to have them. They say women love attention, and I can agree that for the most part, we do, so in a lot of cases, if we're not getting the attention we're seeking at home, we'll go out and look for it elsewhere and the same can be said for men. Keep these things in mind and you'll have a happier, healthier relationship.

There's No I In Team But There Is A Me

I don't know why I don't learn from trying to post from my phone, but anyways... Some people don't know how to go from "it's all about me" to "it's us against the world" when they enter a relationship, which of course causes issues. People get so caught up in trying to do what's best for them and not considering other people's feelings that it is hard to transition to someone who actually gives a care when they meet someone new. And in other cases, they really don't care. There are people out there who only want to get into a relationship if it is going to benefit them and make their lives better in some way. I brought this topic up to tell you to beware. Beware so that if you meet someone who has intentions on taking, taking, taking and never giving anything back, you won't be taken on a ride. Beware so that you aren't fooled by someone who only wants to look out for themselves. I'd also say beware so that you, yourself, don't become one of those people because it's definitely hard to trust anyone but yourself these days, but you must remember life is all about taking chances. Don't get so caught up in trying to look out for yourself to make sure you don't get hurt that you miss out on someone who really only had your best interest at heart. A relationship involves two people and if one party is reaping all the benefits, is the only one whose feelings are considered, the other person really isn't needed.

Don't Ask, Don't Tell

I'm a firm believer in honesty is the best policy, but for a lot of people that only applies if you ask the right questions. So, if you're entering a new relationship and you guys are trying to get to know each other, should you automatically volunteer information about yourself that might not necessarily show you in the best light? The way I see it, people should have a choice in what they're getting into, they should be able to make an informed decision. What are your thoughts on this?

We Come In All Shapes And Sizes

While having a conversation with my boyfriend, he brought up an interesting point, men will accept you just as you are, as long as you're confident in yourself. It is moreso women than men who call women fat if they are bigger than a size two. If you look at it, most men, especially those in this community, like women "with a little meat on their bones". The women you see on television and magazines are typically not good representations of women in the real world, women that you see walking down the street each and everyday. A lot of those women are staving themselves and practicing all types of potentially fatal behaviors in order to be thin, in order to be what "society" says is beautiful. You don't have to be a size two in order to be sexy, you don't have to weigh one hundred and ten pounds in order to look glamorous. As long as you are a healthy weight and you're happy with yourself, that's all that matters. Women are beautiful and sexy in all shapes, sizes, colors, races, etc. We need to uplift each other and praise each other's accomplishments. Don't starve yourself to be thin. Don't practice terrible behaviors or take dangerous drugs in order to be accepted. Love who you are and be YOUR ideal you. If God wanted us to all look the same, He would've made us that way.