Are We Too Selfish For Relationships?

I always hear people talking about what they want in a girl or guy, how they want them to look, what they want them to be like, etc, but you rarely hear people talk about what they want to be like for their partner. People are so quick to ask what you can do for them rather than what they can do for someone else. People are always like what about me? What do YOU have to offer ME? Have you ever asked yourself what you're doing so that you can attract what it is that you want? And I'm not just talking finances or education. Although you can't be lazy, sitting at home on the couch doing nothing and expecting to get someone who works hard each and every day to make money to support themselves. Or act immature all the time and hanging with immature people while expecting to meet someone who is mature and ready to be serious. But back to what I was saying. What about the person you are physically? If you want someone who's physically fit, wouldn't you also want to be physically fit? What you give off is what you'll attract. Not many people who are in great shape physically want to date a person who isn't. If you want someone who is good at keeping a house in order, shouldn't you at least learn to pick up after yourself first? Nobody wants to be someone else's maid or butler. All I'm saying is we should all think a bit more into what WE can bring to the table to sweeten the deal for our partners or future partners. Nobody owes us anything. We shouldn't be so worried about what he/she brings to the table if we really have nothing to offer them in return. Be real with yourself and ask what it is that you have to offer someone else. What are your thoughts on this? Let me hear from you, please leave comments.