Is The Other Woman Really To Blame?

She's called a slut, a whore, a homewreaker, and I'm sure much worse, while all the man who cheats is called a cheater or dog. What's the difference? The other woman is continuously hated and ridiculed by not only the wife or girlfriend, but in lots of cases those on the outside looking in. But I want to know why we as women seem to have been conditioned to automatically hate the other woman although she obviously isn't the one who made the commitment. So why isn't the man the one who's hated and ridiculed? Who the hell "boys will be boys" would be a good way to defend men's bad behavior anyway? Now, I know that in some cases the other woman knew the guy was involved with someone else before sleeping with him, but in most cases she's in the dark just like the wife or girlfriend. So, what's your take on this? Should the other woman be blamed? Have we become so wrapped up in the "boys will be boys" craze that we just excuse the men who cheat?