What's Your Fantasy?

There are fantasies about having threesomes, fantasies about having sex outside or in an airport, or some public place, fantasies about having sex with someone exotic, etc. But how do you know what's a good fantasy to try and what's one to be left as just a fantasy? Truth is, I don't think anyone could answer that question for you although I think for obvious reasons some fantasies could potentially cause more issues than others (i.e. threesomes, sex in public place).  I do think that in a lot of cases, people, men especially, feel even more loved by their significant other when they agree to participate in carrying out a fantasy though. So, have you ever talked to your mate about your fantasies or are you too embarrassed? Would you ever consider carrying one or more of them out? What makes for a good fantasy? A bad one? If I could give you any advice at all, I'd say why not try to create a new fantasy with your mate, spice things up a bit. Or you could even try talking about your fantasies to get you in the mood. Whether you decide to try them or not, they could still serve a good purpose for you in that way...

Therefore A Man Shall Leave His Father And Mother

When a man and woman decide to get married, there are quite a few things that need to be discussed like finances, places to live, etc. But one topic I think a lot of people neglect to discuss is the true meaning of becoming one. See, God did not make a mistake when he said that the two shall become one when two people are married and although we are to read the Bible for ourselves and therefore come to our own understanding of what we read, I'd bet money that the general consensus is this; becoming one means you truly must leave your family behind. This means your spouse comes first, of course, but it also means that you need to keep your family AND friends out your business. I personally believe that talking to people other than your spouse about things that happen within your marriage is one of the easiest ways to end up in a divorce. I also believe that in a lot of cases, family can be the worst people to tell! I mean, I know most of them mean well, but they can be the nosiest group of people in the world! In a nutshell, people, all I'm trying to say is keep your friends and family out of your personal business because once you become one, your marriage is yours and yours alone. Hey! Even God knew sharing intimate details of a marriage was a bad idea. LOL (Ephesians 5:31)

Let's Get Married... Or Not!

So as a result of watching one of my favorite shows, Bridezillas, I just had to write a post on this and ask the question; if he/she is a hot head, jerk, witch with a capital B, or whatever it is that you want to call them, what would make you think that marrying them would change them? I mean, here I am watching the show, pretty much every Sunday I might add, wondering why the heck these men even put up with the over the top, sometimes down right nasty attitudes of the brides to be on the show? I mean, does it not occur to them that these women's attitudes could actually get worse? Which led me to my next thought, you always hear about women who are so in love with the IDEA of being married that they plot and scheme, huff and puff, and believe the hype of "something is better than nothing", they'll marry anybody for the sake of being married; could this not be the case with men? Is it so hard to believe that men could be so fed up with their biological clocks going off that they rush into marriages that were domed from the start? Just saying, as a hopeless romantic, there's nothing I love more than seeing two people in love/people getting married BUT if you can't take your mate anywhere without them cursing someone out, getting into some type of altercation, or just getting upset over any ole thing, you need to think twice. Is this really the person you want to spend the rest your life with? Think about it.

You Have What?!?

Let's just say you met the perfect man/woman  for you and he/she is everything you have ever wanted in a mate. He/she is very attractive, very intelligent, sweet, family oriented, and everything else you want, but there's one VERY big issue; he/she recently told you that he/she has an incurable STD. Now I know that many of you are already saying to yourself "Oh, my God! He/she is NOT the one!" or something along those lines as STDS, whether curable or not, are pretty much always paired with negative stereotypes/views. People automatically assume that if a person has an STD they are nasty and have obviously had a lot of sexual partners when in actuality, sexually transmitted diseases CAN be passed from mother to child, CAN be caught from having sex with only ONE person, and CAN be passed through shared needles. The sad part is that as soon as a person reveals that they have a STD, people are so quick to judge that person that they never take the time to realize that the person may have been the victim of a heartless jerk who just wanted to "burn" someone else because they were "burned" or the innocent child of an misinformed mother, you just n ever know. I said all that to say don't be so quick to judge. I know that it is not an ideal life to live with a person who has an incuable disease, much less one that is sexually transmitted, but my question to you would be, if you felt that this person was "the one" in every other aspect, would you stay with them and even marry them? Or do you feel this is something you simply could not handle? What are your thoughts on this? Leave your comments below.

Curfews: Why You Should Have One In Your Relationship

I know that once we reach a certain age we feel we don't need anyone else telling us what to do and that's definitely not what this post is about. It is, however, about respect. As a man or woman, you must realize that when you're in a relationship, you must take someone else's feelings into consideration, you must communicate your feelings openly and find common ground. And let me explain what I mean when I speak of curfews. What I mean is, someone who is in a relationship, in my opinion, should not be out at all hours of the night. Yes, relationships are built on trust, but temptation is real and he said she said can certainly complicate things.  Now I am certainly not saying that just because you are in a relationship you should not hang out with friends, but I am saying choose your actions wisely. Being out aklk night can cause all kinds of unnessary problems which is why you and your partner should agree on an appropriate time for you to both be in.

Can A Relationship Ever Really Be 50/50?

I have often heard women say they want a relationship where they are treated equal, a relationship that is 50/50. That left me to wonder if that is even possible and I have come to believe in most cases it is not. Let me tell you why. I honestly don't know too many women willing to pay for 50 % of the dates they go on, to split household chores such as taking out the trash, and perhaps open doors for him on occassion, okay perhaps that's an exaggeration, but you get my point.  Although a lot of women don't take the time to consider what that really means or they've thought about it and aren't able to follow thru with all this type of relationship requires. What do you think? Can a relationship ever truly 50/50?

Modesty Is The Best Policy

 After going to church today and taking a look around, I felt this post would be much needed. Now I know while in church your mind should be on praising God, however, when you're sitting in church trying to concentrate on the sermon and some girl is prancing back in a shirt that has her girls less than covered, it's kind of hard to miss. Let me go on record as saying I definitely don't think you have to dress like a nun when heading to church, in fact, I totally agree you should dress nice. BUT while dressing fashionably, you should also dress modestly. You should NOT be wearing outfits you'd wear to the club to church. Church is where you go to praise God not. show the world what your mama  gave you. All I'm tryin g to say is, when in doubt, cover it up. Less is more. Dress  like a lady in the Lord's house.