Heart Over Matter?

You always hear people say you should listen to or follow your heart. You always hear that you can't choose who you love, the heart wants what the heart wants. But on the flip side, you hear people say that have to be more rational because their hearts have lead them down the wrong path. Can you ever really just listen to your heart though? I mean, is it really possible to just meet someone, fall for them, and then just let go and let whatever happens happen? I'm not sure there's a real answer to that question, guess it depends on what your definition of following your heart is. For people who wear their hearts on their sleeves, I know this is especially hard because they're usually more easily hurt. And I know these are the people who often times  they become more apprehensive when it comes to dating. They might know in their heart that they really like someone, but their mind will tell them to hold back because that person might turn out to be just like all the others who hurt them in the past. But, maybe we should all learn to start from scratch. Learn to really learn to let our hearts lead us. You only have one life to live and you should definitely live it to the fullest. Life is all about taking chances and love is the greatest gift life has to offer, so the next time you meet someone you truly feel a connection with, go for it, put your heart over the matter. It's always easier said than done, this I surely know, as I said I've been hurt in the past, too, but isn't it worth a try?

Don't Miss The Water Till The Well Runs Dry

It's funny how someone who's seemingly uninterested in suddenly becomes interested in you once you've found someone else. Or how someone who never appreciated you when they had you, but they swear they can't live without you once you've decided to leave. All I'm saying is, if you've got something good, hold on to it. Always let your significant other know how much you love and appreciate them. Make sure you do right by them because you never know how long they'll be by your side. Appreciate what you have or someone else will. It's like the blues song says "when you say scat cat, another man says here kitty kitty."

Does Money Equal Attractive?

Now, you'd think that you're either attractive or not, but according to some studies I've recently come across, that's certainly not the case. In fact, one study showed that people perceived themselves to be more attractive or sexy when they had more money while another showed women rated men as more attractive after finding out they were well off although they'd previously rated them unattractive. Some would argue this is the case with those who competed for the love of rapper Flava Flav on his VH1 reality show Flavor of Love considering he's often times rated as um... Less than attractive. So my question is this, do you think those studies are accurate? Does money really make people more attractive?

Women Are Cougars, What Are Men?

I'm sure during recent years we've all become familiar with the term used to describe women who date younger men, cougar. I'malso sure we've all become familiar with a few examples, too, there's Demi Moore, Madonna, and Mariah Carey to name a few. It seems that ppl moreso look down upon women who date younger men while once again men are praised for doing the same thing. I'm not really understanding why though. Why is ok for men, but not for women? So my question is what do you call men who date younger women? Is there even a word to describe a man who dates younger women like there is for women who date younger men?

Find The Perfect Balance

They say opposites attract, but they also say if you're not from similar backgrounds chances of a long, healthy relationship certainly dwindle. They say you need someone who is more like you, but if they're too much like you, you guys will most likely hate each other. I'd say you have to find that perfect balance, you want someone who is like you, but also different. You want someone who compliments you, someone who possesses positive qualities that  you don't possess. And like I said before, in order to find this person, you may have to think outside the box. Don't keep your checklist for a mate glued to your hand, know what qualities are important and which ones aren't. Don't be so quick to judge a book by it's cover. I said all this to say, love comes in all shapes and sizes, you never know what type of package your love will be wrapped in. You just have to be open to taking a look inside any box you feel could quite possibly be filled with something special. You don't need someone too different from you nor do you need someone who is too similar to you. You need that perfect balance of both someone similar yet different. Find that balance and you'll find just what you need.

God Made Me

OK, so this topic came up when I heard a lady make a comment about the outfits gospel singers Mary Mary were wearing on a show that had come on BET. Now, while I agree that you should not "let it all hang out" when praising God, going to church, doing a praise dance, etc, I do also feel that you shouldn't have to dress like a nun in order to please people. Tina and Erica have curves, this is true, BUT God gave them those curves and in my opinion they dress them nicely. I haven't seen them dressed too provocatively nor do I think they're over sexed. I even heard on some show that Pop singer Jessica Simpson was turned away from singing gospel because people felt her large breasts made her too sexy to be a Christian artist. Here's my take on this, God made us all. It isn't our fault the way God made each and every one of us and we should not have to apologize for the way He made us look. I say as long as you're not wearing skin tight clothes or showing all your "goodies", you're good. There is a way to be sexy yet classy. And once again, I don't think you have to dress like a nun simply because you're a Christian. Christians can be sexy, too, you just have to do it tastefully.

Please Don't Give Up

First and foremost, let me thank everyone who love and support me in all that I do. You don't have any idea how much that means to me. I just wanted to take the time out to get a couple things off my chest and maybe even encourage someone else along the way. This week has been a really tough week for me, I'm just not sure how things are going to work out for me. People I thought were on my side left me high and dry, had a family emergency this week, a lot of things were out of whack this week and I was on the verge of giving up. I wanted to give up on my dreams, accomplishing what I want to accomplish, so called friends, etc. You know what though, that's not who I am and I know that's definitely not who God wants me to be. I realize that times are going to get hard and things are not always going to go the way we planned for them to go, but nevertheless, we must keep going. Anything worth having is worth fighting for and I want to fight for my dreams. I want to be successful at what I feel I was put here to do and I'm going to do everything I can to make it happen. So, I just wanted to say to anyone out there feeling like I was a few days ago, don't give up. Don't let your hard times make you give in. Pursue your dreams and believe that God will help you achieve them. You may not be where you want to be right now, but trust and believe that one day you will be.