Is An Ultimatum The Answer?

This, too, is an age old question, should you give him an ultimatum... Let's say you've been in a relationship for four years. You've lived together, you've had a child or children,  and everybody around you is beginning to ask you "when's the wedding?". How are you to deal with this? I mean, you've told him on several occasions that you want to marry you and he's told you that you'd make a good wife ONE DAY, but you're wondering when that day will come. Should you tell him it's either a ring or the door or should you just wait it out and let him make that move on his own? It's a tough call to make as every situation is different and where giving an ultimatum may work in some cases, it may turn out badly in others. For this delicate situation, I'd say take time out to think about whether or not you can handle things taking a turn for the worse in the case that you give an ultimatum and can imagine your life without him. You must look at what the outcome could be. I know that on one hand you may want to give an ultimatum because you're not getting any younger and after all, you've been together for years, but have you thought about how you'd feel if he decided to marry you only AFTER your giving him that ultimatum? True enough that may be just the push he needed and he could be grateful to you for making him realize that, but on the flip side, he may marry you and resent you for "making" him do it. All I'm saying is think long and hard before giving him that ultimatum, you never know how things may turn out. It may be everything you wanted and more, but it could also be the worst thing ever.