This Time Around, I'm Doing Me!

So there are only a couple more days in left in this year and I would like to take this time to inspire you to have faith. Some of you may have had some tough times, terrible hardships, devastating losses, and horrible heartbreak over the course of this year. Even though it's easier said than done, leave all those things behind. 2013 is a new year, you should enter it with a new attitude. This isn't about making new year's resolutions or anything like that. This is about making this year your year by taking charge of your life. You have got to be your own biggest cheerleader. Maybe you lost your job, okay. That just means God has something better for you. Your relationship ended. There is someone better for you. Just take the time to turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Life is too short to live it mad or sad all the time. Believe that you deserve the best tat life has to offer. Love yourself, believe in yourself and do whatever it is that you want to do in 2013! Live life to the fullest! Do you, boo!

What Do Your Panties Say About You?

Have you ever noticed that when you feel sex, you tend to dress sexier, underwear included? Or that when you feel not so sexy or attractive, you tend to choose your panties accordingly? So let's examine what your panties are saying about you. Wearing a thong, boy shorts, or any lacy little number typically means that A. you feel sexy and in some cases B. you are ready for action if you know what I mean. Let's just be honest ladies, most of us only wear lingerie or anything remotely close to lingerie when we feel sexy enough to show someone else (although I do realize some women wear thongs daily, do you, boo!). Now on the other hand, when we get to the point where we are comfortable within our relationship (could be that we just get lazy) or we are not feeling sexy at the time, the "granny panties" make their entrance into our wardrobe again. Some women simply feel they are the most comfortable thing for them while others may feel "granny panties" are the most practical things in the world. And believe me, I'm not saying you can't feel sexy whatever panties you decide to wear, but be honest with yourself and admit that in most cases your mate is not turned on by your over sized, less than flattering panties or they may just be tired of seeing the same ole same ole thing. I'm just saying. Change things up a bit. Even if you've been with your mate for forever and a day,it is still good to pull out a pair of lacy cheeky Victoria's Secret panties every now and then. And if you have given yourself a rash trying to be sexy ALL the time, give yourself a break! It IS okay to wear "granny panties" from time to time. In other words, your panties say this; lacy, barely there panties=sexy/in the mood. While "granny panties"= not feeling too sexy today/just want to be comfortable/lazy.

Show Your Support!

No matter if you're male or female, we all want to feel loved and supported especially within our relationship. As we become comfortable in our relationship and the honeymoon phase is over, it is so easy to show less interest in what our mates are doing, to be less affectionate. You must be aware that this is a common occurrence in a lot of relationships, but you must also be aware that being aware of this common occurrence is the first step towards preventing or fixing the problem. Know that we are all human and thus all make mistakes. But here's what you've got to do. Re-focus your attention on your partner. Take the time to show them that you not only care about them but also the things that are important to them. Be there for them. Showing your support for your partner is a huge part of being a great mate.

Act Like A Man

Guys, SOME of you have got to do better! I don't understand your settling for whatever is handed to you. Are you not strong enough to pull your own weight? Are you not smart enough to learn from not only your mistakes but the mistakes of those around you? Why would you be content with merely getting by? Wake up! You have everything you need to make a good like yourself and your family future or present. Stop thinking that because you're from "the hood", you have to do as those in the hood are expected to. You do NOT have to do drugs. You do NOT have to make multiple babies with multiple women. You CAN go to college and get multiple degrees because you ARE intelligent and that doesn't make you a sell out or a lame or whatever else it is that you may be called. Be your own person. Realize that being a man is not about how many people you can intimidate or how many women you get into bed or having a child with your last name. Being a man is about being a responsible person, working hard to be a good provider, living life to the fullest. All I'm trying to say is, please stop trying to please your friends. Please stop mooching off family. Find your own LEGIT way to make it in this world. If you have to work two jobs to provide for your family, do that. If you feel college isn't for you, find some other way to become more educated like trade school. As I said before guys SOME of you have got to do better, but for those of you who are on point, keep up the good work and maybe lend a friend to a guy who isn't on point, but trying to get there.

You've Got To Give It To Receive It

Everyone has their opinion on oral sex. Some people just HAVE to have it in their sexual relationship while others would much rather do without. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, what do you think? Is oral sex important within your sexual relationship? And if so, does your mate have to first perform oral sex on you in order for you to perform oral sex on them? I mean, they always say you've got to give respect to get respect and you should treat people the way you want to be treated right? LOL Just saying. But on that same note though, it is also said that it is better to give than to receive... Do you think that applies here? Should you pleasure your partner regardless to whether or not they'll return the favor? You tell me.

Keeping Up With The Joneses

We've all heard the phrase "Keeping up with the Joneses" and if we're honest, we'll admit that we have, in one way or another, tried to "one up" the next person whether it's thru our choice in clothes and shoes, the car we choose to drive, or the amount of money we spend on the things we buy. However, keeping in competition with your fellow man isn't always te greatest idea. While in most cases, a little friendly competition is pretty harmless, when comparing your relationship to someone else's, it can be detrimental. What works for onecouple simply may not work for the next couple. And even worse, if you are bragging about how wonderful your mate is and all the things he/she does for you, the person you're bragging to may want to find out how wonderful your mate is first hand. My point is, you should be thankful for the person you have in your life, obviously you think they're a great catch if you're with them. No comparison is needed to validate your relationship.

Remember To Have Fun

So often we hear people say that once you get married and/or have children, your life is over, but why? That should be when your life is beginning! I said it before and I'll say it again, marriage is a beautiful thing, it is a sacred gift from God. I think the problem lies where people get married and fall into the same ole same ole routine of everyday life. But if you work together to make things good, your married life can be great. You have to MAKE time for the things you like to do. You have to remember what made you guys fall in love in the first place. Try new things together, do the things you loved to do before marriage/kids. It's important that you remember to have fun. Life is too short to live it unhappily. Marriage and long term relationships in general will run into it's fair share of road blocks, it's your job to pass them and continue on the right path to happiness sometimes all it takes is a night out together to discover each other again.