Friday, September 2, 2011
You Want Me To Let You Put That Where? (Anal Sex)
The topic of anal sex is still somewhat taboo, some people feel like it's gross and some even think it's wrong. Well, I think it's like I always say, to each his own. I decided to write this post today and give a few pros and cons when it comes to anal sex. Let's start with the good things first. Anal sex for some can be VERY pleasurable as there are nerve endings in the anus that you do not have anywhere else and I've also heard that orgasms from anal sex are MUCH more intense than those experienced from vaginal sex. Anal sex adds variety to your sex life as it is different than vaginal sex in that it's supposed to be a much tighter fit which is what is pleasurable to the man involved. Now a couple of cons. Ladies, just like your first time having vaginal sex, anal sex is painful in the beginning which is why it is suggested that you use lots of lubrication when trying to insert the penis into that area. You're also more afraid to try anal sex because you're afraid it may get...messy and you'll be embarrassed which means you tense up and make penetration back there harder. So, here are a few pointers on anal sex just in case you want to try or if you've tried it and want to make it better. Please, please, please make sure you are ready to try it before you get started. Once you've established that you want to do it, take it nice and slow. Maybe have a nice drink, wine, champagne, etc to loosen up a bit, then start with foreplay to get more into the mood. Make sure that once you're ready to "get it in" you lube and strap up (PLEASE PRACTICE SAFE SEX! I really can not say this enough) and ladies, try to relax as much as you can. Guys, please remember that you must take your time when entering and still be gentle once you're inside. This is not the time to "beat it up". Once you're both comfortable and feeling good, do what you do. Have fun with it. Oh, and if you're afraid of things getting messy, be sure to stop by the bathroom before getting started, make sure you shower up so that you'll feel more comfortable with the situation.
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The topic on today is something that i really really like doing. But Shakina i have a question i have this man that doesn't like to do that. But one night he asked to do it and when i told him about it he gonna tell me it was just in the heat on the moment. But now it's like every time i ask him it's no. But when it comes time for me to do something in the bedroom he'll want me to do it. So i was thinking that for now on when he ask me to do something i'm just gonna say no like he does me then that way we both will be even and he want ask me anymore. It really don't even suppose to be like that with us but he just want give in u know and i'm tired of asking really i just stopped. And he knows that i get off on both front and back. But i like the back the best. So tell me what should i do.
ReplyDeleteIn the bed room we as women should be open to a lot of things but that place isn't one of them for me lol. Omg I couldn't imagine that would I try it ummmmm I don't think so maybe after 5 kids then hell I'll do anything......
ReplyDelete@Someone Special I always say communication is key. I know that you've talked to him about trying anal sex and things haven't changed, but have yu tried talking to him about making a compromise? I don't know if you're into sex toys or not, but what about trying to incorporate that into your sex life. Perhaps he'd be comfortable using one on you instead of his actual penis. If you all can't come to a compromise then you might next seek counseling if you feel this is a relationship you want to continue. Sex is a big part of most people's relationships and if anal sex is something you enjoy that much and he's unwilling to try it although you do things he wants, there's definitley a problem there. If he doesn't satisfy you, you'll look for satisfaction elsewhere which will only lead to more issues within your relationship.
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