Church Folk=Hypocrites?

Let me start off by saying that I, myself, am a Christian woman. However, I have come to realize why a lot of people are turned off of church and Christianity in general. It seems as if the people who are supposed to be the most understanding, those who are in the church and are supposed to be living by God's word are sometimes the most judgmental and two-faced. A lot of "Christian" people are real quick to judge when whatever it is that is going on isn't going on with them. It is as if once they get "saved" they forget that they weren't always that way. This is definitely NOT the way it should be. The Bible tells us that God is the ONLY one who can judge us and we have ALL sinned whether it be telling a white lie so as to not hurt some one's feelings or you've murdered someone. No sin is greater than another and for Christian people to treat others as if they are beneath us is a disgrace to God. God asks us to love our neighbors, not tear them down simply because they are where we used to be or because their sins SEEM bigger than our sins. We've all done things that we're not proud of and we're all supposed to be striving to  be better which means we're supposed to strive each day to be more like Christ. Christ was a loving man, so loving that He died for our sins. He who did nothing to others was tormented then crucified. Christians are human just like everyone else which means we've all made mistakes. We need to learn to keep that in mind and realize that we should love the next person as Christ loved us. We could all stand to learn a few new things, we need to read our Bibles more and actually follow through with living out what the word tells us.

How Long Should You Wait Before Moving On?

Typically men and women have different views on this subject as it sometimes seems men have a shorter recovery span than do women. After a break-up, especially one that resulted after a long-term relationship, women appear slower to move on than men... depending on the type of guys they are anyway. I've seen cases where not even a month later the guy already has another girl on his arm and the ex-girlfriend is outraged thinking he should have at least waited that entire month and I'm sure there are cases where the shoe is on the other foot, although, I myself don't know of any such cases, I'm certain it happens though. So, my question here is this; is there or should there be a certain amount of time waited before moving on to the next romantic encounter? My opinion is yes, especially if it was once again a long term relationship. You need time to heal and don't want to carry extra baggage into another relationship, although I guess that too is debatable depending on whether the next relationship is serious or just a fling to get you over that hump. I'd still suggest giving yourself at least a little time to be alone, at least a month and up to maybe six, before hopping in bed with someone else whether it's serious or not though as feelings can get hurt and mixed emotions may be felt and a whole bunch of confusion can be created from your instantaneous bed hopping. What is your take on this? Is there a certain amount of time you should wait before moving on? If you'd say yes, how long do you think you should wait?

Once A Cheater Always A Cheater?

We all know someone who is a cheater and/or someone who has been cheated on. It's pretty much expected that people will cheat whether male or female, but can a person who has cheated in the past change? And can you ever really trust someone after they've cheated on you? There are plenty of stories of relationships and marriages that have "survived" infidelity and I'm more likely to believe them than not and I'll tell you why. People change for the better each and every day. People have gone from criminals to law enforcement officers AND are staying on the right side of the track. People have gone from drug addicts and dealers to preachers and perfectly clean Christian people of the church so I totally believe that people can change for the better even people who have cheated. I'm not sure exactly how relationships survive infidelity, but obviously it can be done if both parties work hard at the relationship and making progress towards being better people for each other and the kids if they have them. What are your thoughts on this topic? Do you think people who have cheated in the past can change for the better?

Is It Okay To Be Friends With An Ex?

Now I've written before and said I don't think that going back to an ex is a good idea as you all obviously broke up for a reason. But today, I have a different issue to discuss when it comes to exes, should you continue talking with them/ being friends with them once you've broken up? Okay, so here's my take on this, once you all have broken up, it's, in most cases, in the best interest of both parties involved that you go your separate ways and cut all communication. The reason I'd suggest no communication would be mostly that emotions will be confused. Not only will the emotions of the two parties involved be confused, but if one or both of you decide to move on, I'm pretty sure this will cause confusion with your new partner(s). You must remember that you have history with this person and what does it say about your relationship with them if you're unable to go on with your life without them in it? There are always exceptions to every rule, and maybe being friends with your ex works for you. Maybe you have to remain friends with your ex because you all have kids, whatever the case may be, all I'm saying is that in most cases it is best to leave your ex in the past... What are your thoughts on this?

I Love Having Sex, But Rather Get Some...

I"m sorry. I tried to publish this post from my phone, and obviously it didn't work so I'm trying again... Okay, so, it's no secret that men are typically huge fans of oral sex, more so than most women even to the point of preferring it to sexual intercourse. So, here are my thoughts on that, now earlier on in creating this blog, I wrote a post and asked if a good bj really did go a long way and after publishing it I did get a lot of people saying to me they believe it does. Now I'm a firm believer in compromising and trying to make things work and I feel as long as your partner isn't asking you to do anything that is detrimental to him, yourself, or anyone else and it's not anything that truly makes you uncomfortable, why not? If your partner is everything you need/want in a partner, if they try to satisfy you in the bedroom, if you really care about that person, I say go for it. Do research on giving good bjs and practice makes perfect. I've read/heard that giving eye contact while going down, paying close attention to the tip of the penis, humming, and learning to use your tongue a bit more can add to the pleasure a man feels during a bj... Guys, you'll have to be more vocal and help the ladies out with this one though as we don't have a penis so we don't know exactly what feels best unless you let us know. So ladies, if you love your man/want to please him, and you know he's craving more oral pleasure, suck it up... Literally. LOL

Does True Love Even Exist?

With all the divorces and break-ups happening around us, it can be hard to even imagine a "happily ever after", let alone finding a "true love". You hardly see couples getting married and staying together for fifty and/or sixty years, in fact, you hardly see couples getting married now at all. Suddenly people are saying "marriage isn't for everybody" and "I don't want to put myself in that type of situation". But I'm baffled by this and have NO comprehension of when or why this started. Those who follow my blog regularly know that I'm pro marriage and would definitely consider myself a hopeless romantic so I certainly want to believe that true love not only exists, but also that marriages can survive the storm. It's really not so easy to keep that type of attitude considering all the negativity surrounding marriage and love and relationships in general. I mean, have people become so wrapped up in their own lives that they aren't willing to compromise and/or open their hearts up to someone else? Where did this all begin? Will this anti marriage/love movement ever turn around? Should I even believe that true love exists? These are questions I find myself wondering as I take a look around me. I always want to look on the bright side and hope for the best, but considering the increasing divorce rates and the number of break-ups amongst peers, I'm not sure how much longer my positive attitude towards love will last.

Why Are Smart Women Dumb When It Comes To Men?

You see it all the time, a beautiful, sweet, otherwise intelligent woman makes a dumb decision and enters a relationship with a guy EVERYBODY knows she shouldn't be with, except her. The guy she's with has no job, no car, no education, and has no problem letting her take care of him. People around her, friends and family warn her about him and try to get her to see the bigger picture (he's using her and only dragging her down), but she's in denial and thinks she's in love. So then this brings to mind the saying that love is blind and also that you can't help who you love. Now, I can't speak for every woman who works to take care of herself and man, in fact, I can't speak for any of them, what I can say though is that I think there is a deeper issue there. What would make someone want to be with a person who is supposed to love them, yet they watch you work hard to support them each and everyday while they sit back and do nothing? I can get that you never know who you'll fall in love with and that love is the strongest emotion there is, but aren't you supposed to also learn to use your mind along with your heart? What's your take on this? Why are smart women so dumb when it comes to men in your opinion?