Act Like A Man

Guys, SOME of you have got to do better! I don't understand your settling for whatever is handed to you. Are you not strong enough to pull your own weight? Are you not smart enough to learn from not only your mistakes but the mistakes of those around you? Why would you be content with merely getting by? Wake up! You have everything you need to make a good like yourself and your family future or present. Stop thinking that because you're from "the hood", you have to do as those in the hood are expected to. You do NOT have to do drugs. You do NOT have to make multiple babies with multiple women. You CAN go to college and get multiple degrees because you ARE intelligent and that doesn't make you a sell out or a lame or whatever else it is that you may be called. Be your own person. Realize that being a man is not about how many people you can intimidate or how many women you get into bed or having a child with your last name. Being a man is about being a responsible person, working hard to be a good provider, living life to the fullest. All I'm trying to say is, please stop trying to please your friends. Please stop mooching off family. Find your own LEGIT way to make it in this world. If you have to work two jobs to provide for your family, do that. If you feel college isn't for you, find some other way to become more educated like trade school. As I said before guys SOME of you have got to do better, but for those of you who are on point, keep up the good work and maybe lend a friend to a guy who isn't on point, but trying to get there.

You've Got To Give It To Receive It

Everyone has their opinion on oral sex. Some people just HAVE to have it in their sexual relationship while others would much rather do without. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, what do you think? Is oral sex important within your sexual relationship? And if so, does your mate have to first perform oral sex on you in order for you to perform oral sex on them? I mean, they always say you've got to give respect to get respect and you should treat people the way you want to be treated right? LOL Just saying. But on that same note though, it is also said that it is better to give than to receive... Do you think that applies here? Should you pleasure your partner regardless to whether or not they'll return the favor? You tell me.

Keeping Up With The Joneses

We've all heard the phrase "Keeping up with the Joneses" and if we're honest, we'll admit that we have, in one way or another, tried to "one up" the next person whether it's thru our choice in clothes and shoes, the car we choose to drive, or the amount of money we spend on the things we buy. However, keeping in competition with your fellow man isn't always te greatest idea. While in most cases, a little friendly competition is pretty harmless, when comparing your relationship to someone else's, it can be detrimental. What works for onecouple simply may not work for the next couple. And even worse, if you are bragging about how wonderful your mate is and all the things he/she does for you, the person you're bragging to may want to find out how wonderful your mate is first hand. My point is, you should be thankful for the person you have in your life, obviously you think they're a great catch if you're with them. No comparison is needed to validate your relationship.

Remember To Have Fun

So often we hear people say that once you get married and/or have children, your life is over, but why? That should be when your life is beginning! I said it before and I'll say it again, marriage is a beautiful thing, it is a sacred gift from God. I think the problem lies where people get married and fall into the same ole same ole routine of everyday life. But if you work together to make things good, your married life can be great. You have to MAKE time for the things you like to do. You have to remember what made you guys fall in love in the first place. Try new things together, do the things you loved to do before marriage/kids. It's important that you remember to have fun. Life is too short to live it unhappily. Marriage and long term relationships in general will run into it's fair share of road blocks, it's your job to pass them and continue on the right path to happiness sometimes all it takes is a night out together to discover each other again.

A Relationship Without Sex

How important is sex to you? Is it so important that you wouldn't be in a relationship without it? Let's just say you met someone and you all had an instant connection, everything with them was great, but for whatever reason whether it be by choice or force he/she is not having sex. Would you continue the relationship or end it? I think that we have begun to put way too much emphasis on sex and it's importance. I mean of course sex is important, it is how we reproduce and is definitely ONE major form of intimacy, but isn't the ONLY form of intimacy. Not every kiss, hug, or touch has to lead to  sex. It IS possible to have a successful relationship without sex. But what are your thoughts? Could you be someone who wasn't sexually active?

Tips For A Better Sex Life

Just wanted to share a few tips for a better sex life with you if you don't mind.

1. Communication is key. Close mouths don't get fed. People are not mind readers you must tell your mate what you do or do not like.

2. Although it is still considered a taboo subject for some, masturbation has many benefits. You'll learn what makes you feel you good, it helps to lower stress levels ad more.

3. Have sex often. The longer you go without sex, the less you'll want it which would NOT be good for your relationship.

4. Keep what happens in your bedroom between you and your mate. That's no body's business but you guys'.

5. Always try to spice things up a bit. Sex should be exciting and fun, not routine and boring. You don't necessarily have to get all crazy with the whips and chains and all of that, but even picking up a copy of the Kama Sutra and trying some new positions may be enough spice.

When Is It Time To Let Go?

We all want to have our relationships work, but sometimes they just don't. Sometimes things go from bad to worse and nobody knows how to fix it. Sometimes can simply hold on to something we should definitely let go off, but how do we know when it's time to let go? I say there are a few ways to know when it's time to close the door on your relationship and leave. One being everything that is done within the relationship is geared toward one person, in other words, one person makes all the decisions and the other person simply goes along with it for fear of confrontation or just to keep the peace. In this case, the person who is just going along for the ride is not needed. A relationship is two people working together so if one person's input isn't being valued or used, they're not needed. Another way to know is when there are more times that you feel sad than times that you are happy. Life is too short to be unhappy all the time and as the saying goes, you can do bad all by yourself, you don't need anyone else to help your life be hard. If your mate is being abusive mentally OR physically, that is unacceptable. You need someone who will uplift you, not bring you down. And your body is a temple, it wasn't intended to be "vandalized". If you are ONLY staying with your mate because of the kids, then there really is no relationship at all. You have to be a couple outside of your kids and if that is not happening, believe it or not, you're doing more harm by staying than leaving. If you're unhappy, your kids CAN pick up on that. They are smarter than you think.