Choose Your Battles Wisely

While it is true that no two people are alike and every one's entitled to their own opinion, within a relationship, you have to find common ground or agree to disagree from time to time. Communication is key in any relationship which means you must be able to not only express your opinion effectively but also listen to the other party's take on things. Speaking inn a nice tone is also very important and something that is hard to do when a controversial topic is brought up. You must realize that not many people take kindly to being yelled at and when yelling is involved things can get pretty ugly and in a relationship, you must decide if certain topics are even worth talking about. Is it really important to remind him that he's the man of the house and thus expected to do certain chores every time he forgets to take out the trash? And must you remind her tat she needs to keep the house clean because that's part of her wifely duties whenever there are dishes in the sink? All I'm saying is, not everything should be a discussion, especially if you KNOW it's petty and will most likely lead to an argument. Petty arguments CAN turn into huge battles that You may not be ready for. Sometimes it really is best to leave well enough alone. So my question to you would be, in choosing your battles wisely, is it ever wise to keep something that's really bothering you to yourself simply to keep the peace?

Please Leave Her Alone!

Now  I know that women are notorious for being naive and holding on to men who never should've been given a chance in the first place, but let's be honest, there are some men out there who are notorious for the same thing! So, for the guys who fit into this category, I have compiled a list of a few things about a woman that should let you know from jump to leave her alone!

1. She has five kids, no job, and she's not trying to find a job (welfare is good enough for her)

2. She is more concerned with how much money you bring home than any or your morals and values

3.Her biggest accomplishment is paying for her own butt injections (now her dream to be just like Nicki Minaj can finally come true!)

4. She is willing to leave her kids with any and everybody just so she can hit up the club

5. She goes to college just long enough to get a refund check ( actually finishing school and getting a degree isn't all that important)

6. Her only mode of transportation is bumming a ride from friends and family and that is A-Ok with her

7. You can catch her in at least five lies within ten minutes of talking to her

8. She wears name brand clothes and shoes all the time, yet brings her kids out looking like they're homeless (SHE is the center of her universe)

9. She thinks reality TV is really reality

10. She refers to her kids as b*tches, h*s, and n*ggas

If I Were A Boy

Let me start off by saying I know there are no good women out there, too and  not all men are bad. So guys, if this does not pertain to you, you shouldn't be offended. Now, here's the thing; we all know that in a lot of cases men get away with way more than a woman ever could. I'll give you a few examples. A young man gets a girl pregnant and leaves, he just wasn't ready to grow up yet in that same situation, but the girl left instead, she would be dogged out because women should know better. A man cheats with multiple women and it's no big deal, he's just being a man and would, in some cases, be admired by his peers while a woman in that situation, even if she only slept with one guy other than her mate, would be called everything but a child of God.  Men are able to have tons of kids with multiple women and nothing gets said, let a woman do the same and she's nasty, slutty, and whatever else. So my question is what if the world were different? What if women were the ones having sex with men, producing babies then leaving men to raise them alone? What if women were the ones being praised for running around with multiple guys leading them to believe they really cared when they really didn't? If the shoe were on the other foot, would men put up with all the crap from women that women put up with from them? If things were different, would men even be able to handle things?

What's Your Fantasy?

There are fantasies about having threesomes, fantasies about having sex outside or in an airport, or some public place, fantasies about having sex with someone exotic, etc. But how do you know what's a good fantasy to try and what's one to be left as just a fantasy? Truth is, I don't think anyone could answer that question for you although I think for obvious reasons some fantasies could potentially cause more issues than others (i.e. threesomes, sex in public place).  I do think that in a lot of cases, people, men especially, feel even more loved by their significant other when they agree to participate in carrying out a fantasy though. So, have you ever talked to your mate about your fantasies or are you too embarrassed? Would you ever consider carrying one or more of them out? What makes for a good fantasy? A bad one? If I could give you any advice at all, I'd say why not try to create a new fantasy with your mate, spice things up a bit. Or you could even try talking about your fantasies to get you in the mood. Whether you decide to try them or not, they could still serve a good purpose for you in that way...

Therefore A Man Shall Leave His Father And Mother

When a man and woman decide to get married, there are quite a few things that need to be discussed like finances, places to live, etc. But one topic I think a lot of people neglect to discuss is the true meaning of becoming one. See, God did not make a mistake when he said that the two shall become one when two people are married and although we are to read the Bible for ourselves and therefore come to our own understanding of what we read, I'd bet money that the general consensus is this; becoming one means you truly must leave your family behind. This means your spouse comes first, of course, but it also means that you need to keep your family AND friends out your business. I personally believe that talking to people other than your spouse about things that happen within your marriage is one of the easiest ways to end up in a divorce. I also believe that in a lot of cases, family can be the worst people to tell! I mean, I know most of them mean well, but they can be the nosiest group of people in the world! In a nutshell, people, all I'm trying to say is keep your friends and family out of your personal business because once you become one, your marriage is yours and yours alone. Hey! Even God knew sharing intimate details of a marriage was a bad idea. LOL (Ephesians 5:31)

Let's Get Married... Or Not!

So as a result of watching one of my favorite shows, Bridezillas, I just had to write a post on this and ask the question; if he/she is a hot head, jerk, witch with a capital B, or whatever it is that you want to call them, what would make you think that marrying them would change them? I mean, here I am watching the show, pretty much every Sunday I might add, wondering why the heck these men even put up with the over the top, sometimes down right nasty attitudes of the brides to be on the show? I mean, does it not occur to them that these women's attitudes could actually get worse? Which led me to my next thought, you always hear about women who are so in love with the IDEA of being married that they plot and scheme, huff and puff, and believe the hype of "something is better than nothing", they'll marry anybody for the sake of being married; could this not be the case with men? Is it so hard to believe that men could be so fed up with their biological clocks going off that they rush into marriages that were domed from the start? Just saying, as a hopeless romantic, there's nothing I love more than seeing two people in love/people getting married BUT if you can't take your mate anywhere without them cursing someone out, getting into some type of altercation, or just getting upset over any ole thing, you need to think twice. Is this really the person you want to spend the rest your life with? Think about it.

You Have What?!?

Let's just say you met the perfect man/woman  for you and he/she is everything you have ever wanted in a mate. He/she is very attractive, very intelligent, sweet, family oriented, and everything else you want, but there's one VERY big issue; he/she recently told you that he/she has an incurable STD. Now I know that many of you are already saying to yourself "Oh, my God! He/she is NOT the one!" or something along those lines as STDS, whether curable or not, are pretty much always paired with negative stereotypes/views. People automatically assume that if a person has an STD they are nasty and have obviously had a lot of sexual partners when in actuality, sexually transmitted diseases CAN be passed from mother to child, CAN be caught from having sex with only ONE person, and CAN be passed through shared needles. The sad part is that as soon as a person reveals that they have a STD, people are so quick to judge that person that they never take the time to realize that the person may have been the victim of a heartless jerk who just wanted to "burn" someone else because they were "burned" or the innocent child of an misinformed mother, you just n ever know. I said all that to say don't be so quick to judge. I know that it is not an ideal life to live with a person who has an incuable disease, much less one that is sexually transmitted, but my question to you would be, if you felt that this person was "the one" in every other aspect, would you stay with them and even marry them? Or do you feel this is something you simply could not handle? What are your thoughts on this? Leave your comments below.