Let He Who Is Without Sin...

Ok, so, I know I'm late with this, but I am just now taking the time to read about the controversy concerning Kandi Burruss putting out a gospel track featuring Marvin Sapp titled Prayed Up. Here is my take on that, we ALL have faults and have made mistakes and have things in our pasts that we are not necessarily proud of and regardless to whether or not it involved sex, it was NOT pleasing to God and we knew it. I say that to say "let he who is WITHOUT sin cast the first stone". I know some people are saying you shouldn't straddle the fence or in other words you shouldn't be broadcasting your life of sin for the world to see while putting out songs praising God/Christianity, but on that, I would have to agree with a comment someone wrote on another website, her walk with God is HERS alone. God is the ONLY one who has a heaven or hell to put her in. He is the ONLY one who should judge her. We should be looking at the message, NOT the messenger as NO man is perfect or free from some type of sin.

Are Men Really The "Sensitive" Ones?

I have pondered this issue before and even posed the question to my friends on Facebook; do you think men are more insecure than women? Are men really the ones who are sensitive? I ask these questions, more recently due to something I read in a book. The character, Chante' was looking in the dictionary to see if there was a male equivalent for any of the derogatory terms defined for women. Words like slut and whore. She did not, however find any such male equivalents leading her to say that men "dish it, but can't take it". After reading those words, I began to think, you know... There are a lot of things that can "bruise a man's ego" or hurt his "pride". I'll give you a few examples to think about; obviously, if a woman has had more sexual partners, if a woman makes more money, if a woman has more education, if a woman is better at doing something men are "supposed" to be good at just to name a few. Now, don't get me wrong, I know that there are men out there who are so secure within themselves that these things may not bother them one bit, BUT I know that there are, of course, those guys out there who will feel less of a man being with a woman who possesses any of these characteristics. And yes, I also know that there are women who could be just as insecure about these things, but this post isn't about that. Anyway, those were just a few of my thoughts.

Don't Let Yourself Go

Whenever we get into a relationship and that relationship becomes long termn we all have a tendency to get comfortable and let ourselves "go". But if we want things to continue going good for us, we have to remember that what we in order to catch him or her is what we need to do to keep his/her attention. If you used to dress up for no reason in the beginning, you should continue to do so. If you brought her little surprises "just because" in the beginning then you should continue to do so. It's like I always say, spice things up a bit. Variety is the spice of life. Stop doing the same ole things every weekend. Stop eating at the same ole restaurants every night. Dress up, get your hair done/cut like you use to. Keep yourself up. Continue to exercise. Continue to do all the things that got your significant other to fall in love with you.

Give Love To Get Love

It's Valentine's Day!!! I know that some of you are rolling your eyes or feeling angry or maybe even sad because you're single and this day is notorious for being all about couples. I also know that some of you don't believe in celebrating Valentine's Day although you are in a relationship because you feel you don't need a day set aside to show love, you do that year round. However, I am here to ask that everyone just show love to others. Whether it is family, friends, a coworker, or someone you don't know. Show that you care. Buy a gift for someone you no has no one to buy them anything. Volunteer your services at a shelter, hospital, or nursing home. When you are a blessing to someone else, you are a blessing to yourself, whether you're in a relationship or not.

Facebook Is NOT A Place To Vent

I have said it before and I will say it again, you should keep your business to yourself! I understand that we all had moments when we feel angry or sad or even depressed, but putting your "whole life story" on Facebook or Twitter or any other social networking site. I have seen status updates about people's sex life, about somebody sleeping with someone else's mate, and even some about people getting excited about going grocery shopping with food stamps. My point n this being that NOBODY needs to know so much of your business. Did you know that some companies now check out people's Facebook profile before deciding whether or not to hire them? And besides it potentially being detrimental to relationships, you never know who's reading your updates. Stop telling people when you leave home, what type of car you drive, how much money you make, etc. Letting people know your every move is dangerous and could most definitely end up being something on the six o'clock news. All I'm saying is learn to use some discretion or you could pay the consequences.

Everybody Plays The Fool Sometimes

It's always easier to point out the negative in someone else's situation when truth be told things would be a lot better if we all took a step back and looked at our own situation. We have all done things we are not proud of, we have all been disappointed in things we've done, and most of all, we have ALL played the fool. No matter if you dated someone who cheated, someone who did not have your best interest at heart or someone who just really what you knew you needed. The pot should never be bold enough to call the kettle black because after all you surely know what that feels like. I said all that to say, in essence, mind your own business and unless it is asked for, keep your two cents to yourself. Only God can judge and if it's someone you love playing the fool, just kow that when they get fed up, they'll leave. And if the fool is you and you're busy talking down about someone else's situation, you need to sweep around your own front door.

Self Esteem Issues

While watching one of my guilty pleasures, The Real Housewives of Atlanta, I noticed a trend that I really loathe and have no clue where or when it started. That being said, after watching that show a few other things that fit into this category came to mind, so I decided to create a list. This lists consists of things that women THINK convey that they have high self esteem, but they really don't.

1. Wearing a ton of make -up to show that you're beautiful... Yeah, make up should ENHANCE your beauty, NOT create it

2. Base how sexy you feel on how many men compliment you or ask you out... You should feel sexy all on your own regardless to whether or not a man says something to you

3. Wearing skimpy clothes all the time living by the whole "if you got it, flaunt it" mantra... Your self esteem should be based on more than the way you dress and although it's okay to "flaunt" a little something (I'm not saying let it all hang out though) every now and then, you should definitely used discretion when deciding what to wear

4. ALWAYS talking about how beautiful/gorgeous/fabulous you are... If you truly believe you're beautiful, gorgeous, fabulous or whatever else, you don't have to tell people, actions speak louder than words

Guys, I have a list coming for you soon!