Act Like A Gentleman, Think Like A Woman?

So... I'm definitely not saying there's anything wrong with reading books for dating advice, I mean, I am guilty of reading AND enjoying quite a few of those books myself. But I can't help but notice they all seem to be geared towards women, but why is that? Are women so uninformed that every person who ever wants to write a book on getting a relationship, keeping a relationship, or just making dating more fulfilling has to write a how to guide for them? I'm not saying that there aren't dating guides out there for men, too, but I can't say that I could name any right off the top of my head like I could dating guides for women. I'm just saying, if men are SO simple and women SO complex why aren't THEY the ones having to have so many books written to help them? Understand also that a lot of men aren't as into reading as women are, but come on, seriously? Maybe someone, preferably a woman, should write a book for men telling them how a woman wants and needs to be treated. Maybe they should think about telling men how to act, too. Just saying.

Don't Let That Stop You!

Ok, so I'm feeling like being inspirational today. I want us all to realize that no matter who you are or where you are, we all have a past. We have regrets, we've all made mistakes. No one and I mean absolutely no one is perfect and we should all keep that in mind. That being said, you can not let your past make you ashamed or feel less than. You CAN overcome! Whatever it is tat you want to do, go for it! Believe, have faith, don't give up! No matter what your dream, it can be accomplished. Don't let anyone tear you down! You can become tat lawyer, doctor, singer, whatever. You can have the family you want. You can have the nice house, car, money. You can have a great life!

All I Want... A Big Booty H*e

I am sure that many of us have heard the 2 Chainz song "Birthday Song" in which he makes it VERY clear that all he wants for his birthday is "a big booty h*e". Now I have no doubt that many of you listen to this song, sing along to ALL the lyrics, dance all night to it and have absolutely no problem with it at all, but I'm here to tell you that I do. Why? Because I am sick and tired of this nonsense! Why must our music include the same degrading, ignorant, down right disrespectful crap? And worse yet, why do we keep listening to, downloading, and promoting it? I'm not speaking only to the ladies on this one, although we definitely play a HUGE role in this. I've said it before and I'll say it again; we have got to demand better for ourselves. Don't answer to h*e, b*tch, sl*t, etc. You are more than your body, much more than your looks, more valuable than to be used for sex and thrown away. And guys, do you ever stop to think how you'd feel if some man said the things that you say to girls on the street to your mom, grandmom, daughter, etc? Just because something is popular that does not make it right.We need a change. What happened to men actually "courting" women, being romantic, and taking the time to get to know a woman BEFORE trying to get them into bed? What happened to women acting like ladies, knowing their worth and not throwing themselves at men opting instead to let him chase her before jumping into bed?  Can we ever go back to that?

Check With Your Man First

It is definitely true that some people will do anything in their power to break up a happy home and in a lot of cases, the reason is simply that e person does not have a happy home of their own. They will make up all types of lies about you and/or your partner, try their best to catch you in compromising positions, and even go so far as to show up to your place unannounced to make it appear that more is going on than there really is. The bottom line is that the saying "misery loves company" does have truth to it. You have to realize this and beware of your surroundings. Relationships are built on trust so no matter what others are telling you, unless you feel in your heart they're or you have solid proof, you ask your partner about it and believe what they say. Sometimes people want what they can't have, your man or woman included. So the next time someone comes to you trying to tell you what YOUR mate is doing wrong, ladies, do as Madea said and check with your man first. And guys, check with your lady first.

This Time Around, I'm Doing Me!

So there are only a couple more days in left in this year and I would like to take this time to inspire you to have faith. Some of you may have had some tough times, terrible hardships, devastating losses, and horrible heartbreak over the course of this year. Even though it's easier said than done, leave all those things behind. 2013 is a new year, you should enter it with a new attitude. This isn't about making new year's resolutions or anything like that. This is about making this year your year by taking charge of your life. You have got to be your own biggest cheerleader. Maybe you lost your job, okay. That just means God has something better for you. Your relationship ended. There is someone better for you. Just take the time to turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Life is too short to live it mad or sad all the time. Believe that you deserve the best tat life has to offer. Love yourself, believe in yourself and do whatever it is that you want to do in 2013! Live life to the fullest! Do you, boo!

What Do Your Panties Say About You?

Have you ever noticed that when you feel sex, you tend to dress sexier, underwear included? Or that when you feel not so sexy or attractive, you tend to choose your panties accordingly? So let's examine what your panties are saying about you. Wearing a thong, boy shorts, or any lacy little number typically means that A. you feel sexy and in some cases B. you are ready for action if you know what I mean. Let's just be honest ladies, most of us only wear lingerie or anything remotely close to lingerie when we feel sexy enough to show someone else (although I do realize some women wear thongs daily, do you, boo!). Now on the other hand, when we get to the point where we are comfortable within our relationship (could be that we just get lazy) or we are not feeling sexy at the time, the "granny panties" make their entrance into our wardrobe again. Some women simply feel they are the most comfortable thing for them while others may feel "granny panties" are the most practical things in the world. And believe me, I'm not saying you can't feel sexy whatever panties you decide to wear, but be honest with yourself and admit that in most cases your mate is not turned on by your over sized, less than flattering panties or they may just be tired of seeing the same ole same ole thing. I'm just saying. Change things up a bit. Even if you've been with your mate for forever and a day,it is still good to pull out a pair of lacy cheeky Victoria's Secret panties every now and then. And if you have given yourself a rash trying to be sexy ALL the time, give yourself a break! It IS okay to wear "granny panties" from time to time. In other words, your panties say this; lacy, barely there panties=sexy/in the mood. While "granny panties"= not feeling too sexy today/just want to be comfortable/lazy.

Show Your Support!

No matter if you're male or female, we all want to feel loved and supported especially within our relationship. As we become comfortable in our relationship and the honeymoon phase is over, it is so easy to show less interest in what our mates are doing, to be less affectionate. You must be aware that this is a common occurrence in a lot of relationships, but you must also be aware that being aware of this common occurrence is the first step towards preventing or fixing the problem. Know that we are all human and thus all make mistakes. But here's what you've got to do. Re-focus your attention on your partner. Take the time to show them that you not only care about them but also the things that are important to them. Be there for them. Showing your support for your partner is a huge part of being a great mate.