Don't Let Your Friends Be Your Downfall

I just want to point something out to each and everyone of my readers. Not everyone you think is your friend is truly your friend. SOMETIMES your “friends” will hurt you more than help you. Picture this, you and your boyfriend/girlfriend are doing great, you’re getting along well, spending plenty of quality time together, etc. Then one day you share with your friends something that has been bothering you about your mate and their first reaction is “Girl, if I was you, I’d leave him.” Or “Man, you need to leave that girl alone.” And now you’re second guessing your relationship and wondering if you really should leave him or her. Now first of all, if your relationship is built on the right foundation you’d go talk to your mate FIRST and not only that a TRUE friend would say “Why don’t you talk to him/her about it if it’s really bothering you?” Bam! Right there. End of discussion. Point blank period. My point in all this is you need to be able to discern who is truly for you and who isn’t. The saying really is true, misery loves company and sometimes that miserable person will disguise him/herself as a friend. Just be careful because not everyone one you think is for you wants to see you happy or watch your relationship succeed if theirs is crappy or they aren’t in one. Word to the wise, keep your relationship issues between you and your mate.

Just Hold On

The key is knowing exactly what you want and truly sticking with it. Beware of wolves in sheep's clothing! Okay, let me break it down for you. You meet a guy/girl, he/she seems like the man/woman of your dreams in the beginning, but as time goes on, you realize they are anything but. He/she has an amazing body/great looks, but their personality is not even the least bit interesting. Or you meet someone and they are the sweetest, most intellectual thing, but their looks aren't the best. Now, I'm a firm believer that looks aren't everything BUT they DO count! You don't want to be with someone simply because they are nice and have some qualities that you want in a man/woman but you're not even remotely attracted to them, chances are you'll either end up cheating or miserable when you realize that if you'd just held out you'd have met someone with both the looks and personality you wanted. Now, let me back track and explain what I mean here, you may have your dream man or woman built up in your head, he/she is this tall, is of this body type, has this length hair, etc, but chances are your dream man or woman won't be exactly that and you'll still be attracted to them! Why? Because they will be the RIGHT person for you! Don't judge a book by it's cover! Just because he/she looks good doesn't mean he/she is good or right for you. See what his/her personality is like, find out what their values are, do they have goals for their life and are they working on trying to reach them? In a nutshell, what I'm saying is, don't lower your standards simply because you're lonely, have faith that the right guy/girl will come. He/she may not look as you expected but they will be just what I need. Am I saying God will send you an unattractive yet intellectual guy/girl? No, I'm just saying they may not look as you imagined, they'll be attractive but maybe not in the ways you thought. Maybe he'll be a little shorter than you expected, maybe she'll have a different body type than you thought you wanted but in the end he/she will be the TOTAL package and that's all that matters, what you should hold out for.

7 Ways To Tell He Doesn't Really Want To Get Married

Women are NOTORIOUS for trying to change men or trying to change their minds about things that will never happen. With this in mind, I compiled a list of ways to tell that a man REALLY does NOT want to get married.

1. He straight out TELLS you he doesn't want to get married. I know a lot of us think "He doesn't really mean that" or "When he sees how good a woman I am, he'll change his mind". But ladies, a word of advice, if he says he doesn't want to get married BELIEVE HIM!

2. Words like wedding, marriage, reception are like kryptonyte to him, he seems to fade away at the mention of anything marriage related. If even the word marriage makes him hyperventilate. He's not ready, ladies.

3. You guys have "been together" for over a year and you have yet to meet any of his family or more than one or two friends. If he really thought you were a catch, he'd be showing you off to the world.

4. He makes plans for the future but you're not included in those plans.
If he can see you in his future, he'll include you in it. His way of speaking will go from I and me to us and we.

5. He is still messing around with other women and has no shame in his game. If he is flaunting other women and letting you know you're not the only one, why would you want to marry him anyway?

6. He doesn't include you in things that are important to him or you're included as an after thought. If he really wants to marry you, he wants to include you in things that are important to him... And things that aren't so important to him for that matter, he just wants YOU in his life

7. If he talks about marrying you but makes no real effort to show he's serious (i.e. not buying an engagement ring or buying a ring and putting off setting a date, setting a date and then backing out once planning begins). He either not ready, doesn't really know what he wants, or he's stringing you along. Either way, you have to figure out if you're going to stick around long enough to see if he'll really marry you.